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Family of Ness City Woman Speaks Out Save Email Print
Posted: 10:35 PM Mar 14, 2008
Last Updated: 2:50 AM Mar 15, 2008
Email Address: jared.cerullo@kake.com

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The family of a Kansas woman who spent two years sitting on a toilet is speaking out.

Pam Babcock was discovered by authorities physically stuck to the toilet in her Ness City home. Her boyfriend claims Babcock stayed in the bathroom on her own, but her family doesn't believe it.

Carmen McNamara spoke to KAKE News Friday evening from her Arizona home. During the conversation, she explained that Babcock's life changed dramatically when she met Kory McFarron.

"We love Pamela to death.," says McNamara. "Her family loves her very, very much. I, like a lot of others right now, think there's more to this story that Mr. McFarron isn't telling."

It's simply an astonishing story. McFarron told us earlier this week that he never held Babcock against her will. But, even so, the sheriff of Ness County says he still could face criminal charges for not getting her help sooner. Meanwhile, Pam's cousin says it's not like her family just forgot about her.

McNamara says, "We would send letters and telephone and anything to get in touch with her. We'd physically go to her residence and he would tell us that she doesn't want to see or talk to her family. And eventually, SHE would tell us that."

McNamara says her family has been worried sick about Babcock for years. They had no clue what she was enduring.

"Do you call it brainwashing?" Babcock asks. "What do you call it when you have a family member who's now an adult and they used to always love their family, love spending time with you. Now, all of a sudden, she's moved in with someone and won't see us."

Pam Babcock remains at a Wichita hospital where officials say she's in fair condition. It's up to the Ness County Attorney whether to file any criminal charges against her boyfriend.

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Posted by: Lucy Location: Pennsylvania on Apr 15, 2008 at 12:31 PM
I TAKE CARE OF MY 88 YEAR OLD AUNT WITH DEMENTIA.....HOW COULD HER FAMILY NOT CALL THE POLICE BEFORE 2 YEARS WENT BY????? IF THEY KNEW THERE WAS A PROBLEM, GO IN AND CHECK! CALL AUTHORITIES, ANYTHING! THE BOYFRIEND AND FAMILY ALL NEED TO BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE.

Posted by: Anonymous Location: ks on Apr 6, 2008 at 10:25 PM
Thank God the court date is the 7th. (tomorrow). Maybe now something will come of this,and things will settle down.

Posted by: Anonymous Location: kansas on Mar 31, 2008 at 11:53 AM
does anyone know just how many sex ofenders live in ness city? about 5 or 6 that i can think of, and in a town that small thats alot! just how many of these people have been exposed to the news like this? NONE! there are people living there who sexualy abused their own step childnern and none of that made the headlines. There was a 9yr old child dieing of cancer (not in ness) her father had one crime of drugs against him the little girl wanted to see her dad before she passed on and the judge said "no". he finally got a fight going on for him and she got to spend half an hour with him, she died the next morning. Point of this: they had to beg to see a dying child but a sex offender can run free. where is the justice in this. the legal system is not right!

Posted by: anonymous Location: kansas on Mar 31, 2008 at 11:40 AM
If the family was so concerned they could of gotten a court order to come in and have her removed, but wait, they didn't, so really just how concerened was her family? Not very.

Posted by: Anonymous on Mar 22, 2008 at 10:43 PM
I agree. The only people who know the real truth is Pam, Kory, and God. It would be nice to hear Pams side of he story so that all the rumors can be put to rest and these people can be left alone. Its so sad that every place you walk into, world wide, that is all you hear is people gossiping about this. How would all of you gossipers feel if that was you in the hospital haveing to listen to all these stories? People really need mind their own business and leave tese people alone.

Posted by: enquiring minds want to know Location: Ness City on Mar 21, 2008 at 06:34 PM
Kory did not say that she sat on the toilet seat for 2 years. He said that she was on and off of it for sometime. To the family if you don't know the facts of how she was raised after her mother died at a young age. Than you need to find out. Her dad would get drunk all the time and abuse her. Her family told her that she was to stupid to get a drivers license. She had to do all the cleaning and was kept in the house, not to go outside. It is hard to say how long she actually sat on the toilet seat, i don't believe it was for 2 years. She had sores from no exercise and no sunlight. and she probably sat on the seat and stuck from her sores and just didn't think that she could move, on one bad day. Kory should have gotten her help even though she refused and would get mad when he tried. Pam should talk to the media and tell what the world needs to know the truth. Instead of everyone passing judgement.

Posted by: murphy1205 Location: arizona on Mar 18, 2008 at 12:52 PM
It must be sooo easy for you all to judge... You don't have a loved one that someone allowed to say in a bathroom for two years. You don't have a loved one that you don't know if she going to live through this. You don't have a loved one lying in pain because of this and you don't have a loved one that may never walk again.

Posted by: JACK Location: WICHITA on Mar 18, 2008 at 10:26 AM
"Friend" says everyone needs to mind their own buisness. Sounds like thats exactly what people did for about 2 years you dofus. Some peoples comments on this site are so stupid that I am suprised they know how to plug a computer in. I am more entertained by bible thumpers and morons commenting on these stories, than the stories themselves. Please hillbillies, keep it up.

Posted by: jo becchio on Mar 17, 2008 at 09:17 PM
it is buttscusting

Posted by: someone Location: wichita on Mar 17, 2008 at 02:05 PM
This story is really bothersome to me. I do not know anybody involved and I don't have all the facts. I have heard of agoriphobia (spelling?) but i have also heard of people being held against their will or brainwashed. What even the reason is, it is just sad for the lady who this all happened too. I am sure she is really embarrassed and everyone just keeps making their comments. To the lady, I hope you get the help you need, regardless of what that is. Good luck to you!

Posted by: Anonymous on Mar 17, 2008 at 01:39 PM
well fam if you are blogging with the rest of us curious folks I personally think all of you are crazy!!! I am sorry but I will have some definate answers re: any of my family if I show up and i know they are in there an "just dont want to talk" I think that you did not like who she was with and seperated your selves from them so stop the lying cause any caring family member would get answeres and I can assure you that their family member will not be found having sat on the toilet for two years. You are trying to make good in a bad situation mabye all of you should sign up for group conuseling!!!!!!!!

Posted by: Anonymous Location: Ness city on Mar 17, 2008 at 01:01 PM
Sounds like Kory was abusive to me.

Posted by: Friend on Mar 17, 2008 at 11:10 AM
Everybody just needs to mind their own buisness and quit listening to all the gossip. In a small town like Ness City you can only beleive half of what you see and none of what you hear.... so every body needs to butt out and leave them alone!!!!!!!!!Everybody is so bored in their own life that that have to live off everybody elses lives! As far as her family goes, thet didn't care when she was being abused as a child why should the pretend to care now? They need to leave Kory alone!!!!

Posted by: anonymous Location: kansas on Mar 16, 2008 at 08:20 PM
than quit making judgement on Kory. Fact she was abused by her father and a aunt

Posted by: Murphy1205 Location: Arizona on Mar 16, 2008 at 04:43 PM
To those of you that don't even KNOW Pam's family. Stop making judgements that you know nothing about! We have sent the police and the sheriff to check on her in the past. You really need to get your facts before you make sure weak statements!!!

Posted by: Disgusted Location: U.S.A. on Mar 16, 2008 at 11:20 AM
The charges the sheriff is wanting the D.A.to charge is Mistreatment of a Dependent Adult. This charge in the Kansas Sentencing Desk Reference of 2006 only carries a 19 month presumptive probation term with someone with no prior criminal history. That to me seems to lack of punishment for someone who left someone on a toilet long enough for the skin to attach to the seat and have to be surgically removed. The boyfriend said she was there for two years and he is going to only get at the max 19 months of probation??? Come on people he should have got her help the second day she refused to come out of the bathroom.Sounds more like he was holding her captive and I think Kidnapping charges would be more appropriate.

Posted by: star Location: KY on Mar 16, 2008 at 06:44 AM
WHAT!!!??? how strange is this!??/ How can anyone sit on a toilet that long. utterly impossible

Posted by: true and honest friend Location: Ness City on Mar 16, 2008 at 12:54 AM
con't you everyone is pissed off cause she is not talking to the police cause they want to grind Kory into the ground he knows he should have done something but as you noticed she did not want to leave in the first place and you can not make some one do what they don't want to do and yeah if her family was so concerned about her why didn't they contact some higher help but its easier to for them to say that they wanted to see her then make them out to be the bad guy. How Classic. So Good Luck Kory& Pam

Posted by: anonymous on Mar 15, 2008 at 11:33 PM
the family is only trying to make themselves sound good in a bad situation. If they were so concerned in soo many years, than where have they been. Pam was abused by her family, that is why she is having so many problems.

Posted by: Anonymous on Mar 15, 2008 at 05:52 PM
If the family was so worried about her and knew where she lived, why did they not request the police go to the residence and do a welfare check on her. They would have wanted to talk to her themselves to find out if everthing was ok. I mean they havnt talked to her in two years. If it was me I would have contacted the police along time ago.

Posted by: Dae Location: Wichita on Mar 15, 2008 at 09:54 AM
you're right 2 sides to every story--however the bottom line is this according to the boyfriend she sat on the toilet for 2 years--and he did nothing?? Makes one wonder doesn't it and you know emotional and mental abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse and should be prosecuted the same--the boyfriend is obviously the one at fault--he chose not to get her help so what does that say. So he needs to be held accountable.

Posted by: Anoymous Location: Ness on Mar 15, 2008 at 09:50 AM
Why was this not made a crime scene and a investigation done? Was the trash checked out to see if there was restraints thrown away before the trash was emptied? Who would sit on a toilet for two years and become attahced? If my dog sit in the same spot for one day I would take it to the vet to see what was the matter with the animal.

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