Family Speaks In First Interview About Woman in Bathroom for 2 Years
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Posted: 10:33 PM Mar 14, 2008
Last Updated: 10:53 PM Mar 14, 2008
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In their very first media interview the family of the woman who stayed in a bathroom for two years spoke to 13 News. There are certainly a lot of questions surrounding this bizarre story that has gained world-wide attention, some of those are now answered.

"How in the world could someone let her stay there for 2 years and not get help of some kind from somewhere?" That question shared by many asked by Pamela’s first cousin Carmern McNamara who wants Pamela Babcock's boyfriend of 15 years Kory McFarren to answer.

"I feel there is a lot to the story from Mr. McFarren that were not finding out. We don't know what's happening and were not getting the entire story.”

McNamera says Pamela was close to her family until 15 years ago when she went to live with McFarren, but McFarren says it was Pamela's decision not to talk to her family.

"I don't know how long she was in the bathroom she has a fear of coming out, most of that fear of coming out is her relatives she don't want to see them, she's afraid if she comes out she will see them," McFarren said.

But McNamera fears McFarren manipulated Pamela and perhaps hid her.

"His neighbors don't even know she exists how sickening is that, they didn't even know he had a girlfriend what does that say?"

Neighbors agree they didn't know she was there.

"I’ve never even seen a female there, it's disturbing something like this could happen," neighbors said after finding out what happened there.

McNamera says Pamela, now in the hospital, is fighting for her life.

"We love you so much and we will do everything in our power to help you through this."

McNamera says Pamela had no history of mental illness and as far as she knows, there was no family abuse.

The county attorney says he will press charges against Kory McFarren possibly for neglect of an adult dependent.

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Posted by: Anonymous on Jul 31, 2008 at 08:55 AM
Both families are whacked! Come on this whole thing is stupid!

Posted by: donna Location: topeka on Mar 27, 2008 at 08:45 PM
why did he finaly call the police?why wait 2 yr's and then decide to call? when he called he could of easily called at the bengining. he need's to be charged and put in jail.

Posted by: Anonymous on Mar 27, 2008 at 02:06 PM
Where's Doctor Phil?

Posted by: Anonymous on Mar 24, 2008 at 11:24 AM
Oprah will make it better

Posted by: Funny Location: Topeka on Mar 24, 2008 at 12:00 AM
This lady is furious with her sister's boyfriend but why didn't she talk to her sister in 2 years? wow. This is disturbingly funny.

Posted by: Lucinda Location: Topeka on Mar 23, 2008 at 06:00 PM
So right, Sara. People have to want to be helped. We can force children into therapy but we're limited where adults are concerned. If a family member lets you know you're not welcome in their lives then your hands are tied. The law does not allow us to force ourselves into their lives just because we think they may need help. They must agree that they need help. There are facts that are hard to face. Reality doesn't always fit the fairy tale. But jumping to conclusions without all the facts is easy, so that's what most of us do. Those involved must do the tougher things. We who jump to conclusions make it tougher sometimes than it already is. In turn, of course, we begin to stop caring what others think and that's just what society does not need. Maybe we should consider that old saying - walk a mile in someone's shoes before judging.

Posted by: Sara Location: Junction City on Mar 21, 2008 at 06:35 AM
Our family couldn't get mental health care for our mom we tried getting help through state agencies, we tried physically removing her from her house and taking her to the hospital, we tried helping her with her bills, not helping her with her bills. When she died at her own hands and injured two others at that seme time comments appeared in the paper just like the ones below against our family. CARING DOES NO MEAN YOU CAN DO SOMETHING to ease their suffering. Mental illness is a tradgedy It has nothing to do with a supportive family or not.

Posted by: Ashley Location: Topeka on Mar 20, 2008 at 04:10 PM
How could you let someone that you care about live in a bathroom for 2 years, especially without giving them the help that she would need. Whether or not she wanted to move was her right but not doing the right thing made things worse. You shouldn't do that to someone that you love and care about regardless of the stipulations.

Posted by: Tom Location: Topeka on Mar 19, 2008 at 03:01 PM
If they loved her so much why didn't they see her for all those years?

Posted by: me Location: kansas on Mar 18, 2008 at 11:43 AM
i think the whole thing was "out of site, out of mind" for the family. someone else was taking the responsibility and NO ONE CARED.

Posted by: Jesse Location: PA. on Mar 17, 2008 at 07:50 PM
They both need help including her family.

Posted by: Sharon Location: Kansas on Mar 17, 2008 at 02:47 PM
It's just sad that her life came down to being stuck in the bathroom for 2 years. Some one should have corrected this problem a long time age. Either her family or boyfriend. I think they are all in the wrong. The picture is clear, she needs help.

Posted by: Anonymous on Mar 17, 2008 at 10:23 AM
I'm waiting for the MOVIE!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by: Murphy1205 Location: Arizona on Mar 16, 2008 at 05:02 PM
You really should have all the facts before you start making judgements... Including the fact that the family HAS sent the Police and Sheriff down to check on Pam in the past.

Posted by: Anonymous on Mar 16, 2008 at 03:43 AM
dito anonymous! where is the family if they were soo concered?LOOKES LIKE THEY WOULD OF CHECKED A LITTLE SOONER. DON'T ACT LIKE YOU ARE CONCERED NOW!!!!!

Posted by: WENDY on Mar 15, 2008 at 09:02 PM
IF HER FAMILY CARED SO MUCH ABOUT HER AND SAYS THEY WERE CLOSE BEFORE SHE MOVED IN WITH HER BOYFRIEND 15 YRS AGO, WHY WOULD THEY LET THE BOYFRIEND TELL THEM THEY CANT SEE HER, AND CHECK ON HER WELFARE OR GET THE POLICE TO CHECK ON HER....I DO THINK THE BOYFRIEND SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING SOONER BUT I THINK THEY BOTH MIGHT NOT BE IN THE RIGHT STATE OF MIND.

Posted by: Anonymous on Mar 15, 2008 at 04:09 PM
First off she is an adult.If she chose to NOT leave the bathroom then that's her choice.IF the family was sooooo concerned why !!!!! did they NOT physically go there or even have an officer go check on her ? Doesnt sound like to me that her family was that worried. I know what I would do if that were someone I cared about. I honestly don't think the boyfriend should be charged with anything. Although I do agree he should have sought help sooner. No one knows her state of mind except her and her boyfriend.

Posted by: Anonymous on Mar 15, 2008 at 06:40 AM
She chose to live that way and not make contact with the OUTSIDE WORLD/FAMILY, get her the help and assistance she may need.

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