Topeka/Oskaloosa (WIBW) - Dale Kingsbury was a burly man with a fluffy beard. If there ever was a case of don't judge a book by its cover, friends say, he was it.
"Getting to know him, he had a big heart," said Andrew Bayless, a family friend who later worked with Dale.
Kingsbury's widow, Genie, also is trying to make sense of her husband's death.
"I just wish it was a dream and I'd wake up and he'd be there," she said.
Genie says she left Dale at their rural Oskaloosa farm Saturday to run an errand. She says she was gone only an hour and, when she returned, Dale was gone.
The man who'd been staying with them, Adam Hooper, was there, though. Genie says he told her Dale had left with another man. Genie says she believed him at first, but when she noticed Dale's cell phone and cigarettes still in the house, she started making calls.
Genie says Hooper came from Oklahoma in April and needed a place to stay, so she and Dale opened their home, like they had many times before. Genie says she didn't think this would be any different than any other time they had people stay at their farm.
The location was Dale's family farm, a place friends say he was committed to keeping. More than that, Andrew says, Dale loved life. He says caring for the animals was one of Dale's greatest joys.
That - and helping people.
"He didn't have much," Andrew said. "He was a person of simple things and he gave what little he had to other people."
Now, one of those people is accused of taking Dale's life. Andrew says he spent time around Hooper and witnessed behavior he felt dangerous, including cutting himself.
"I just didn't trust him," Andrew said.
Genie says what Hooper allegedly did her husband of nearly 21 years "isn't fair." But she says she'll remember the man he was.
"He was loveable," she said. "He helped people and he was a joy to be around."
Funeral services for Dale Kingsbury will be held at 7pm Friday at Nortonville 7th Day Baptist Church. A fund to assist with funeral expenses is set up through Davidson Funeral Home, 1035 N. Kansas Ave., Topeka., KS, 66608.