6 instant confidence boosters (from Cosmopolitan) I guess the trick is to rethink it! Here are six harmful thoughts and the instant trick to boost your confidence:

• Destructive Thought #1: "I'm Not a People Person." Many women resort to this spin to explain why they don't effortlessly attract tons of attention at parties or keep people spellbound with witty conversation. But for the most part, it's just an escape clause to avoid the awkwardness almost everyone feels when it comes to chatting and mingling. Mental flip: First, understand that pretty much everyone gets anxious when it comes to striking up conversations with strangers. Once you realize that this is very common, you won't be so hard on yourself if you don't leave an event with a bunch of new phone numbers. Then redefine people person so that the new definition more realistically reflects your personality.
• Destructive Thought #2: "If I Get Too Excited, I'll Jinx Things." By some strange act of mental voodoo, you truly believe you'll ruin a career move, a date with a new dude, or other awesome event by getting keyed up about it. Mental flip: While it's wise not to get so wound up that you put all of your eggs in one basket, you'll increase your odds of success if you let yourself fully feel your excitement.
• Destructive Thought #3: "I Hope I Don't Make Anyone Uncomfortable." Often a woman will be so afraid of upsetting or imposing on another person that she never stretches her boundaries and makes waves in the world. Mental flip: Next time you find yourself worrying how something you want will affect others, ask yourself: This might make someone uncomfortable, but is their discomfort a valid reason for me not to go for what I want? As long as you're not lying, cheating, or carelessly causing someone pain, you owe it to yourself to pursue your goals.
• Destructive Thought #4: "I'm in Way Over My Head." When life gets tough -- like if you have started a new job and are sweating under the pressure -- it's a common knee-jerk reaction to conclude that you don't have what it takes to deal. Mental flip: Whenever you encounter this kind of difficulty, don't look at it as an automatic roadblock but rather as an opportunity to prove yourself. Get your mojo pumping by imagining how amazing you'll feel after you successfully tackle the job.
• Destructive Thought #5: "They Know I Want It, So They'll Come to Me." This is what you tell yourself when you're waiting for your boss to offer you a raise or for your guy to bring you flowers for no reason. Mental flip: Consider this: The temporary discomfort of asking for what you want is way less painful than not getting it.
• Destructive Thought #6: "It'll Happen if It's Meant to Be." This mantra makes you think that cosmic forces will miraculously drop opportunities in your lap ... without your having to do any heavy lifting. Mental flip: You can affect fate ... by taking action. Often it's a matter of making a few tiny moves to get the ball rolling.

What's the best way you boost your confidence?